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What’s Your Most Powerful Word?

5.27.15How is your business going?

We do not always think about the power of the words we use to describe our lives, feelings, behaviors and yes, our businesses.  It is through what we say about our lives and business that we define how we behave and even the outcomes that happen to us.

Phrases and adjectives can actually define what happens to us.  For instance, years ago I was a probation officer for both juveniles and adults.  It was the words, tattooed on my clients arms and hands that indicated to me what they really thought of themselves; and many times, more often than not, those words totally described their lives.  I would wince when I saw the words “Born to Lose” tattooed on a body.  Each time I saw it I knew that they were fulfilling on their own prophesy.  These people did not think they had a chance so they didn’t take the actions that would have changed their “bad luck”; they just kept on doing what they had always done, even though they knew where it would lead.

I think that you get my point here.  So, what word will you choose to inspire you and your business as you head into the the second half of 2015?

Here are some words that I found on “List ly” that people are using to describe the results that they want in themselves and their business: awake, implement, smarter, ignite, abundance, amplify, progress, living, re-imagine, humility, simplicity, know, embrace, give, action, now, uphold, do.

The word that I find inspiring is “powerful”.  The rest of this year will be powerful for both my clients and for me.  Using that word as a litmus test for actions, and then measuring for results, will give me a pathway for achieving what it is I want to achieve.

Now it’s your turn.

What is your word?  What word will inspire you to make the rest of 2015 awesome?


How to Escape the Crab Pot

Crab BucketID-100133778When a single crab is put into a lidless bucket, it surely can, and will, escape.  However, when more than one crab share a bucket, none of them can get out.  If one crab elevates itself above the others, the others will grab this crab and pull it back down into the pot to share the fate of the of the entire group.

~Urban Dictionary

You have heard this story and perhaps like me you smile at it and then move on.  Recently I have witnessed this effect with some regularity both in business and in my personal life.  Since my business is about helping the people create lives and business that they love, I find the “crab bucket” effect to be alarming.  Not only that, I find it puzzling as well.  Why do good people do this?

I am bringing this up so that you will become aware of it and put a stop to it, if this is happening to you.  It usually goes like this: someone decides that he wants to start a new business, one that will be fun and profitable.  He talks to his friends about it.  They think his new business is a fool’s folly.  They spend time telling him how it won’t work.  They wear him down with all of their evidence that the new business is an awful idea.  He leaves the conversation defeated and gives up the idea.  The crab bucket won!  Another crab is pulled back into the pot.

If this is happening to you, I recommend that you stop putting your self in the crab bucket. You have some great ideas and you can achieve what you want to do.  Surround yourself with people who you trust and want you to succeed.  Be selective about who you talk to you about your idea.  Walk away from the naysayers.  If you have no one like that in your life then seek some outside assistance.  The best and easiest way to get support for your idea is to talk with people who have already forged new businesses, people who went outside the norm to create something.  Research your idea on the internet, read everything you can about it.  Talk to your future customers to hear what they have to say about your idea.  There are also professionals who can help you develop an action plan.  One of the best organizations in the U.S to offer you support is your local SCORE chapter which offers free advice and mentoring to entrepreneurs.  To find out more about it and to locate a Score chapter in your area, click here

If you are in Canada look here

Now, its your turn.  What has happened to you when you found out that you were in the “crab bucket” and what did you do to get out?  I look forward to hearing from you!


Grit – Your Personal Predictor of Success

So what the is grit?  And how do I get some?

Grit_Web1According to Angela Lee Duckworth, a psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania: “Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals.  Grit is having stamina.  Grit is sticking with your future—day in, day out, not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years—and working really hard to make that future a reality.”

It turns out it is not talent, good looks, intelligence, or amassing financial stability that make us successful—it’s grit.

Of course to develop grit you will have to operate as though failure is not a permanent condition—you may have to give up self pity—after all, you have not failed until you quit, until you have left the playing field forever.

I do believe if you are an entrepreneur, you already have grit.  It takes passion, stamina, and working hard, to be an entrepreneur.  Putting your self out there with a business that you created, and which depends on you to make it work, is grit.

One of my clients called me this week and asked  if I would take some time to “visit’ with him.  I knew that he recently suffered a devastating business blow and nine months of hard work had been crushed when his business plan was rejected by an important investor.  I assumed the “visit” was going to be about how he was quitting.  I was ready for the predictable fallout from this disappointment.  I was wrong.

He wanted to tell me that he had a new idea about how to make his business succeed.  And for the next, forty-five minutes we talked about his new idea for the success of his business plan.  He told me that he wasn’t giving up and that it was probably good that he didn’t get the loan.  He thinks his new idea is even better and will make him more successful.  This guy is a working model of grit. You see, he doesn’t believe that failure is permanent.  He has grit!

In the comments below, please tell me what you think about “grit”.  I look forward to hearing from you.

To Succeed Do This — Not That!

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are.  I don’t believe in circumstances.  The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”

George Bernard Shaw, Mrs. Warren’s Profession

Many of you have seen this quote before.  At first glance, it doesn’t seem that tax-credits_changing-circumstances-175097remarkable does it?  However, with some further examination, you might find, as I have, it is a pointer to how to live your life, and how to create what you want in your life.

I think it’s one of the things that we sometimes remember.  And then we forget it.  It is as if we are cast out into the raging ocean in a shaky rowboat without any oars.  We then become a victim of our circumstances instead of the creator of them.  When we become the victim, all sorts of events thwart our intentions.  Everything we try seems to go wrong.  Everything appears to be against us.  We think we are doomed.  Our view of the future becomes dark and gloomy with thunder and lightening.  We then become right about how hard it is and that nothing is going to work out—and nothing does work out, which makes us even more right.  This is a vicious cycle.   AND, we can, if not prevent it, at least reverse it.

This is where George Bernard Shaw enters the picture with his wonderful quote.

We can make our own circumstances.  When we begin to act on our own behalf, all sorts of openings begin to occur.

I have seen this reversal happen with many of my coaching clients.  Sometimes, it takes them, first of all, making a commitment to be coached.  Often, setting the first appointment begins the shift of circumstances.  Why?  Because they are then committed to shifting their circumstances rather than being victim of them. The next big shift happens when they begin to talk to their coach about their lost dreams and they are listened to seriously and respectfully.  With a coach, someone who is committed to the idea that something can work, the client can succeed.  The client experiences being whole and complete and not their rotten circumstances.  They begin the process of being the success they know themselves to be.  I have seen this happen many times with my clients.

And how about you?  Have you triumphed over a set of rotten circumstances?  What happened?  I would love to hear your comments about this topic.

One Easy Step To Becoming More Powerful

Let’s continue the discussion we began last week, when I said, “ . . . to make keeping your word a moral issue saps it of much of its power and all of its joy.”

Look and see if you feel righteous when you keep your word, or especially when Being Powerful5.15other people don’t.  Do you get angry when people don’t?  Disappointed?  If so, then it’s most likely a moral issue.  I did the right thing, or they were wrong.  It’s been drilled in us since we were children; good people keep their word; people who don’t are bad, but such a stance is quicksand.  If you are good, someone must be bad.  The word good is meaningless without bad.  Suppose that:

“There ain’t no sin and there ain’t no virtue. There’s just stuff people do.”                                                                                                                             John Steinbeck

And then consider this: When someone says to you, “I’ll do it,” and you accept his word, then you are a party to it; you have assumed a certain responsibility in the matter.  Is this true?  Not among ordinary people in the world.  It’s true only for the truly powerful.  The question is: “What is your intention?  To be good?  Or to be powerful?”  (powerful: producing, or capable of producing, an intended result) This is the real value in keeping your word.

Generally, when we think of powerful people, we think of the rich, the famous, and and those in power; and yes, some of those people are powerful.  But ask yourself: If the people in high places are so powerful, why does there appear to be so much effort involved in their lives?  The people I know who are truly powerful don’t spend their lives in an effort to amass great wealth, fame, or importance.  They seem to have a sufficiency of whatever they need, whenever they need it.  When they say something, it happens.  They don’t have to hammer other people; the people around them get to win too.  How do they do this?  By not setting other people up to fail.  But, more important, powerful people don’t set themselves up by expecting—or worse, depending upon—unreliable people to keep their word.

Keeping your word is like using a muscle; it gets stronger and stronger with use.  The outcome of this is that your word has power—what you say, happens.  The place to start is right here, and the time to start is right now.